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Leslie's avatar

Re: the dishwasher thing, I think it's so easy to feel that if we can just do SOMETHING to regain some control in our chaotic lives, we'll be HAPPIER. When in reality, motherhood is just one long surrender to loss of control and you gotta choose to be happy anyway, or not. But I do think being able to thoughtfully embrace that freedom you talk about as a mom really can ease the process, if we let it.

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Gina's avatar

Thank you!! I feel that Catholic mothers *especially* should be reminding each other of this, since they have more kids than average and are swimming upstream in many ways so it's paramount that mothers should feel they have the freedom to mother in the way that makes sense for them at any given time. Unfortunately, Catholics mothers seem to be some of the worst culprits for pontificating about how motherhood/family life *should* look, and oh by the way you should be managing this ideal with 6+ kids. This is largely why I had to get off social media - I still feel like I'm too early in motherhood to let all that stuff roll off my back, so I just had to cut it out.

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