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Nicole's avatar

I think our book club convo was probably really similar 😂. Most of us were rereading it after first reading it while unmarried in college. Soooo different to read as a married person. I also did the audiobook and he was awful. But also just Sheldon is so so aggravating! We all just couldn’t stand his smarmy, self-important tone. Could never be friends with this dude IRL.

I actually think the portrait of their marriage is in some ways *meant* to be just too much! They absolutely made an idol of it and to be fair, he admits as much. Were they also products of their time? Romantics? Hyper-intellectuals? Maybe. Either way, I think many of us found their relationship repugnant in many ways. Davy seems subsumed by Van's ideas, work, personality etc. His conversion does not seem authentic, and he basically admits as much in his sequel “Under the Mercy”.

I thought the *best* part of the whole book was all of C. S. Lewis’s letters and scenes! And actually, I really enjoyed Van’s poetry this time around. In spite of his general smarminess, he could craft a beautiful sonnet!

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Amanda Knapp's avatar

I had to listen to Severe Mercy myself the day of book club. I thought it was a book about marriage, and when viewed through that lens I detested it more than words could say. I believe they created an idol of their marriage and it was very distasteful and actually repugnant to me.

But then I started thinking about it as a conversion story and also about how the vocation of marriage can be used by God as a tool for conversion and salvation. That was the saving grace of the book for me.

I’m going through a difficult time period in life and have been for years. I loved the titles because it tells like many of God’s mercies to me are severe mercies. Salvation and conversion and holiness seem to always come at such a great price, perhaps because I’m a hard headed learner. I won’t forget that phrase, a severe mercy. I’m currently praying for a mercy to come out of my current suffering.

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