I relate to this a lot. Which may be surprising since my whole online thing is finding wonder, but it's sort of like I have to do this because otherwise I never would? Like how crazy people become psychiatrists? Ha. I always say I got my MA in conflict resolution because I'm actually a pretty conflict prone person. We're drawn to what we need, not necessarily what is easy for us. So I totally get the bend toward ornery cynicism.
I know people have their mixed feelings about the enneagram but when I saw I was an 8 a lot made sense for me (also - a rare type for women).
Anyway, just solidarity, and this was a beautiful reflection. I'm mostly just feeling stress from our garden so it's nice to take little bits of peace from yours.
"Being closer to nature and the ways in which things actually grow shows you that all the modern, technological, and artificial ways that we live our lives aren’t the reality of how the world actually works."
I sometimes wonder if that's why we're thrown for such a loop by all kinds of things that go wrong... Because we have no natural practice in any other area of our life.
Haha, yes it's funny how the things we're bad at, or just not naturally adept at require much more thinking and effort to figure out. Which probably isn't a bad thing! And the reality of life is that there isn't some standard that we have to reach in appreciating the world around us. We don't have to wax poetical in order to understand and appreciate beauty, but sometimes on instagram it sure feels like it!
I definitely think the further and further away we get from the natural world and how it functions the more we have to rely on clinical help to get our minds and souls processing the big stuff in life. I'm not saying all therapy is bad or unnecessary, but there's a lot of different reasons why millennial therapy culture is so huge.
“ The problem with detaching from reality though, is that we are really detaching from ourselves, our humanity, our purpose.” That is a beautiful way to put it, thank you. I feel the same way about my veggies as you do about your flowers. Every year I repeat the pattern of yearning for a bounty and then finding things to be dissatisfied about. It is humbling to observe that in myself.
It is so humbling! And humbling because it is basically entirely out of our control! We really want to be able to always identify what we can input to get an exact result, so life in the garden is a good teacher!
Ugh. You've gutted me with this garden soliloquy, Christy! Also, I don't know why, but I feel so competitive with you in regards to my dahlias budding. It's so stupid. But you are all the way up there in Canada and you have way more buds than me!
Haha, I did not gut you Ellen! But yes, gardening competitiveness is real and a big deal. It is especially painful to me when people have things growing in April and my ground isn't close to be unfrozen. I basically torture myself by following English gardeners!
I loved reading this, Christy. I think it really resonates because you’re relating truths that you have had to really struggle with. Thank you for that. Thank you for persevering in the struggle and then sharing hard fought wisdom with us.
I relate to this a lot. Which may be surprising since my whole online thing is finding wonder, but it's sort of like I have to do this because otherwise I never would? Like how crazy people become psychiatrists? Ha. I always say I got my MA in conflict resolution because I'm actually a pretty conflict prone person. We're drawn to what we need, not necessarily what is easy for us. So I totally get the bend toward ornery cynicism.
I know people have their mixed feelings about the enneagram but when I saw I was an 8 a lot made sense for me (also - a rare type for women).
Anyway, just solidarity, and this was a beautiful reflection. I'm mostly just feeling stress from our garden so it's nice to take little bits of peace from yours.
Also this -
"Being closer to nature and the ways in which things actually grow shows you that all the modern, technological, and artificial ways that we live our lives aren’t the reality of how the world actually works."
I sometimes wonder if that's why we're thrown for such a loop by all kinds of things that go wrong... Because we have no natural practice in any other area of our life.
Haha, yes it's funny how the things we're bad at, or just not naturally adept at require much more thinking and effort to figure out. Which probably isn't a bad thing! And the reality of life is that there isn't some standard that we have to reach in appreciating the world around us. We don't have to wax poetical in order to understand and appreciate beauty, but sometimes on instagram it sure feels like it!
I definitely think the further and further away we get from the natural world and how it functions the more we have to rely on clinical help to get our minds and souls processing the big stuff in life. I'm not saying all therapy is bad or unnecessary, but there's a lot of different reasons why millennial therapy culture is so huge.
“ The problem with detaching from reality though, is that we are really detaching from ourselves, our humanity, our purpose.” That is a beautiful way to put it, thank you. I feel the same way about my veggies as you do about your flowers. Every year I repeat the pattern of yearning for a bounty and then finding things to be dissatisfied about. It is humbling to observe that in myself.
It is so humbling! And humbling because it is basically entirely out of our control! We really want to be able to always identify what we can input to get an exact result, so life in the garden is a good teacher!
Ugh. You've gutted me with this garden soliloquy, Christy! Also, I don't know why, but I feel so competitive with you in regards to my dahlias budding. It's so stupid. But you are all the way up there in Canada and you have way more buds than me!
Haha, I did not gut you Ellen! But yes, gardening competitiveness is real and a big deal. It is especially painful to me when people have things growing in April and my ground isn't close to be unfrozen. I basically torture myself by following English gardeners!
I loved reading this, Christy. I think it really resonates because you’re relating truths that you have had to really struggle with. Thank you for that. Thank you for persevering in the struggle and then sharing hard fought wisdom with us.
You're so kind, Colleen! Thank you!
Christy, I LOVE your personality. Thanks for this. My fav thing you have ever written!!!
Hahaha, you're very sweet Nell even if you have seen a lot of my personality! And read so so much of what I've written. Like, so much.
that’s why I can really say how much I love it because I do know!! Haha
Beautiful reflection!
Thank you, Megan!